Bible on romance
Children are a blessing and reward from God (Psalm 127:3). No man or woman has the sole ability, on their own, to bear children. They need each other.
Others have been influenced by their environment. They have observed spouses being beaten and have learned that that’s how to handle your spouse.
Many of the issues affecting society and women specifically would be solved if men were brought up well. A man must be taught how to love his wife.
Ephesians 5:26-30 admonishes husbands to love their wives. They ought to sacrifice for them, provide for, care for and protect them.
In verses 28-29 Paul instructs husbands to “…love their own wives as their own bodies. He that loves his own wife loves himself: for no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as Christ also the church. Like
Like Christ, he should bring out the best in her and help her become the great woman God made her to be.
In other instances, it is just wickedness and people being under demonic influence. Jeremiah 17:9 says, “The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked; who can know it?”
A man doesn’t just storm his home and murder his wife of many years then attempt to set him and their children ablaze! A wife who pours hot water on the husband or chops off his manhood is not normal.
Whatever the reason, they all thrive under enabling environments which include: alcoholism, money or the lack of it, no children, anger and its mismanagement, adultery, misunderstanding, ignorance etc.
James 4:1-2 says, “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill.
You covet but cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.” Don’t fight over what you can solve.
Couples should learn to identify the causes of their pain and find amicable ways of solving them. They should establish the right reasons that make them one and find threats to their marriage.
Amos 3:3, “Will a couple walk in unity without having met?” Agree on how to handle money, conflicts, children, third parties etc. When people agree on a matter they walk together.
Create acceptable conflict resolution avenues. Communicate better and manage anger. Learn that everyone has capacity and ability to disappoint.
James 1:19-20, “My dear brothers and sisters take note of this. Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God requires.”
And Proverbs 5:1 which says this, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up wrath.” We can live well together if we listened and spoke to each other better.
However and whoever you marry, marry because of love. Don’t marry because you want children or because you are looking for a sponsor.
Marry someone you can live with and enjoy life together. Verse 4 of 1 Corinthians says, “Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude.
Finally, ask for help. Find respectable people you can turn to. People you look up to who can help your marriage. Should it descend to violence then that’s a totally different matter.
Report to the authorities and let them intervene. Don’t stay where your life is threatened. It is not God’s will.